Ritual is about comfort, often has personal meaning, and it’s usually done with some intention. It’s often also how we hold space for what matters – which is why they become so important when we’re grieving.
This week we’re exploring some no-nonsense things that can actually help when you’re supporting someone grieving – whether that’s during the holidays, or any other emotionally charged time of year.
If you’re grieving - whether you are heading into your first holiday season without someone, or you are many years along in your grief journey, this time of year can feel like you’re trying to navigate your way through a field of emotional landmines that some people aren’t aware are there.
Science tells us that real, personal connection is a critical part of healing. A hug. A hand on our shoulder. Someone simply sitting quietly beside us. These are the things that actually soothe our nervous system and tell our brain we are safe, seen, and not alone. So how do we reclaim our right to grieve in a world that seems uncomfortable with it?
Ever walked into a room and instantly forgotten why you were there? When you’re grieving, that fog and forgetfulness aren’t signs you’re “losing it.” They’re your brain’s way of coping with emotional overload. In this post, Johanna unpacks the neuroscience of grief brain and offers practical, compassionate ways to support your mind as it heals.
The term “lost history” came up for me during a trauma-informed peer support training years ago, and it lodged itself in my head - and my chest - because it deeply resonated. It’s the ache that doesn’t come from the past, but from the future that was taken away.