There can be a lot of emotional weight around holiday expectations and traditions. They can bring comfort – or they can be painful. And sometimes, when there is difficult stuff going on in our life, they just feel empty and hollow. And if the things that you used to look forward to feel unbearable this year? That’s ok. Because grief doesn’t stop on December 1st to make room for the holiday season.
Ritual is about comfort, often has personal meaning, and it’s usually done with some intention. It’s often also how we hold space for what matters – which is why they become so important when we’re grieving.
This week we’re exploring some no-nonsense things that can actually help when you’re supporting someone grieving – whether that’s during the holidays, or any other emotionally charged time of year.
If you’re grieving - whether you are heading into your first holiday season without someone, or you are many years along in your grief journey, this time of year can feel like you’re trying to navigate your way through a field of emotional landmines that some people aren’t aware are there.
Science tells us that real, personal connection is a critical part of healing. A hug. A hand on our shoulder. Someone simply sitting quietly beside us. These are the things that actually soothe our nervous system and tell our brain we are safe, seen, and not alone. So how do we reclaim our right to grieve in a world that seems uncomfortable with it?
Ever walked into a room and instantly forgotten why you were there? When you’re grieving, that fog and forgetfulness aren’t signs you’re “losing it.” They’re your brain’s way of coping with emotional overload. In this post, Johanna unpacks the neuroscience of grief brain and offers practical, compassionate ways to support your mind as it heals.