We hear a lot about setting boundaries. “Protect your time.” “Say no.” “Set firm limits.” But let’s be honest… “Big boundaries” advice doesn’t always translate well into our real daily life. Enter: Micro-Boundaries
Forty episodes ago, I thought I was starting a podcast. Turns out, I was unknowingly practising exposure therapy. In this post, I share what happens when you repeatedly face fear, why being seen feels so threatening to the brain, and how showing up - imperfectly - can quietly build confidence, resilience, and self-trust over time.
For many of us, people-pleasing goes beyond being a habit. It’s an inherited survival strategy. Maybe it was shaped by family dynamics. Perhaps through cultural messaging. And it’s often associated with attachment patterns and nervous system conditioning. Kindness is a beautiful thing. But people-pleasing is not the same as kindness.
Self-sabotage isn’t a character flaw. It’s a learned survival strategy. And it might not be what you think.
Let’s talk about that voice. The one that shows up when you’ve made a mistake… when you’re thinking about trying something new… or out of nowhere, while you’re brushing your teeth and remember an uncomfortable conversation that happened three days ago.
Gut feelings are real. They’re not our imagination. And they’re worth paying attention to. There’s nothing mystical or irrational about them at all. It’s quite simply science – a combination of neuroscience and psychology.